If your life was a garden, what type of garden would it be?
A while ago we looked around and realized we weren’t growing much of what we wanted in our life – we needed to refine.
There were small pops of color here and there, but the flowers were mostly buried and choked out by ugly, overbearing weeds.
The frustrating thing about weeds is that they seem to grow so much easier than the types of plants we do want.
- Weeds pop up uninvited.
- Weeds sometimes masquerade as pretty flowers, but before you know it, have taken over everything.
- Weeds sometimes blow into our life from other people’s yards.
- Weeds are persistent, and take energy to keep at bay.
The first step is really to recognize the weeds in our life.
What possessions, habits, activities, and responsibilities don’t cultivate the type of life you want to grow, and why are you wasting time and energy nurturing them?
If we don’t have a strong vision for the type of garden we’re growing, it’s far too easy to be influenced by other people’s gardens, or by what’s on sale, or maybe by trying to plant in the wrong place or wrong time.
What about the possibility that what you want to grow would work better in a different climate? Or maybe you get impatient or frustrated with your garden because of the part of the cycle that you’re in with some of your plants.
It’s ok if your garden is on a different schedule than other gardens around you. Don’t get discouraged by others harvesting when you seem to be in plowing mode – everyone goes through all the seasons.
The truth is, we also often spend time nurturing perfectly good plants that simply don’t belong in our garden – plants that take time and energy away from what we truly want to invest in.
Then there are those things that we know in the back of our minds we want to have someday, things that take a long time to grow, but somehow keep putting off planting because it’s so much more gratifying to invest in things that we can harvest right away.
How often do we take time to think about how all the little things we do contribute to the kind of life we want to live, what we desire to be true of us?
Did you know that approximately 95% of who you appear to be and what you do is controlled by your nonconscious mind?
Far too many of us have subconsciously bought into the life society has prescribed to us, doing the next expected thing without bothering to ask why; trying to cram too much into our gardens without considering how it affects our overall quality of life and effectiveness.
Years down the road we find our gardens overrun with weeds that we can’t seem to stay on top of – in debt, in the rat race, in life-sucking busyness, in comparison, or yes, even in laundry.
We slowly learned to “adult” – the responsibilities piling on top of expectations, until being in over our head has become a new normal, much like the proverbial frog in boiling water.
Self-help books or therapy help us adjust to the panicky sensation, or our “medication” of choice dulls our instinct and will to escape.
But under the surface, somewhere in the dusty corners of our hearts – we know something isn’t right.
Somewhere under the suffocating weeds is the YOU you were meant to be – desperate for air, trying to get a message to your conscious self.
Do you long for more space in your life for the things that matter most to you, more clarity of purpose, more meaning?
That’s what Making Room for Greatness is all about…
If you’re not reaping the things that you want in your life, maybe it’s time to rethink how you’re sowing.
What do you spend time nurturing that you need to uproot to make room for better?