How many times have you been in the middle of the holiday season feeling stuck in a bunch of stressful obligations that crowd out the things you wish you were doing?
Or gotten to the other side of the holidays with regrets because of the things you didn’t do?
This is going to be the most obvious solution you can imagine, but we tend to overlook the obvious stuff sometimes.
- Sit down with your family and make a list of the things each of you would like to do. (Consider what you will want to have done coming out on the other side of the holiday season.)
- Number each item in order of priority, making sure there’s a good mix of everyone’s wishes.
- Now make a list of everything that you would normally do or that you feel like you should do – things that are already scheduled and that involve others, like programs, parties, church events, etc.
- Re-evaluate the importance of these things based on your holiday mission statement and agree together on which ones you will try to do and which you might decide to skip.
- Put everything in your calendar – giving special priority to those things that your family has agreed you would like to do together. Remember that you won’t have to to add these 10 things because you’ll have already done them 🙂
Now you can say “Sorry, I already have something scheduled that night,” when people and organizations try to fill up your time with other stuff, no matter how well-intentioned.
- Don’t get too stuck on a schedule that you allow it to ruin your peace if things don’t go just how you hoped.
- Be open to possible schedule “upgrades” (opportunities or spontaneous ideas that come up that would enhance your purpose), but don’t be afraid to say “no” to things that try to hinder the holiday atmosphere you’re trying to create.
- Don’t let yourself or your family get too self-focused unless that was somehow part of your overall goal.
- Ultimately, the biggest indication of success is not that everything went just as planned, but that you accomplished your holiday mission statement.
- Remember that there will be another holiday season next year – perfect is the enemy of good. And remember, too, that not everything absolutely has to be limited to the holiday season – think about how you can incorporate some of the holiday spirit into the rest of your year 🙂
This process might seem a little involved initially, but living intentionally is one of those things that starts out harder and gets so much easier as you go. I am sure you will love your organized Christmas.