Overcoming Overnight Success Envy

By Tico+Tina

Last updated March 19, 2019

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We all know those people, or at least feel like we do.

From our vantage point it would seem they were just walking along one day without a care in the world and suddenly out of nowhere got handed a blank check to the Bank of Success.


So when do our checks get here, huh?

On a particularly bad day one might glare at said successful person on the screen (assuming one happens to be stalking them online – wait, who does that, sheesh, get a life), and wonder what’s so great about them.

On a really good day one might completely ignore altogether what anyone else is doing because one is too busy being focused on making progress in one’s own amazing life.

But then on those in between days where one needs a little inspiration and knows that studying what others have done right can be very useful, how does one keep from allowing it to turn into an above mentioned bad day?

Overnight Success is Largely a Farce

It can help to remember that almost no one anywhere actually accomplishes anything amazing overnight. There are numerous variations floating around of the concept “he worked hard for 20 years to become an overnight success”.

There is so much that goes on behind the scenes that we will likely never know.

Sure, the tipping point could happen overnight, but all the organizing and preparation that goes into being in the “right place at the right time” isn’t as easy as saying a few magic words. And honestly, as tempting as it would be to be able to skip the hard work that it takes to get where one wants to be, it could very likely cause any success to be short-lived.

Every Failure is a Stepping Stone

When comparing to other people’s successes it is very easy to become discouraged with where you currently are, but perspective is HUGE.

We prefer to view obstacles and difficult situations as a (usually) free education.

You can’t avoid making mistakes because – news flash – you are human. (unless you are reading this from some futuristic device with which we here on planet earth are not yet familiar, in which case, congratulations, you’ve probably already succeeded)

Seriously, failure is ok. (note to self)

You don’t know how many hills your [object of envy] may have had to climb. You never know what might be right over your next hill…

Source: thebeautyofone.com via theBeautyofOne on Pinterest

Do You

No one else can do “you” better.

When you wonder if it’s really worth it, cling to that fact.

You were created with your unique skill set, dreams, and perspective – FOR A REASON!

Don’t let anything deter you from understanding and pursuing your personal purpose. When you are confident in what you are doing and WHY you are doing it, the loud temptation to compare yourself with others will slowly start to become muffled and therefore much easier to ignore.

The  Process Matters

Sometimes (often, if I’m being honest) it can feel like the journey to reaching our goals is taking for-ev-er.

Athletes train. Doctors study. Butterflies struggle to get out of their cocoons.

It would be kinda cool to compete in the Olympics, no? I don’t know about you, but if by some insanely odd turn of events I managed to acquire the opportunity to be an Olympic gymnast, I wouldn’t last through one routine.

Because I didn’t train for it.

As admirable of a profession as it is, I personally have zero desire to be a doctor. If they were handing out doctor degrees right and left everyone would certainly suffer.

Because you need a LOT of important knowledge, information, and experience to be a good doctor.

We all know that a butterfly starts out as a caterpillar and must eventually go through a lot of struggle to escape from its cocoon before emerging to intrigue the world with its beauty.

Without this struggle it would be unable to ever reach the potential for which it was created; it would be doomed only to walk, never fly. Its lifespan would also likely be greatly shortened as it would be more susceptible to predators.

Embrace the struggle… you are building up your wings.


(one might or might not be able to exchange instances of “one” in the beginning of this article with “Christina”… she was not available for comment)

*this article was originally written for RevolutionizeHer, before they changed their format recently from blog to community.

We're well-acquainted with being stuck in soul-sucking survival mode, and the intense internal friction of not living in alignment with your potential. We're all about discovering, creating, and sharing adulting cheat codes™ so you can level up faster! -David (Tico) & Chris(tina)

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