Shhh! The Dirty Little Secret about Dieting (that I learned the hard way)

By Tico+Tina

Last updated November 28, 2017

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This entry is part 10 of 10 in the series A Smarter Healthy™

Call me crazy, but I think dieting is stupid.

(No, that’s not a secret.)

I was the skinny girl growing up, so I KNOW how much better I feel when I’m at a good weight, which makes the extra pounds that have been hanging around since becoming a mom that much suckier.

I also know diets can work REALLY well in the short term because I had awesome results that turned really scary doing one of those quick diets in 2009 <– it’s a doozy of a story.

So I’m committed to developing a simple, practical healthy lifestyle that’s sustainable for the long haul. (I plan on living a really, really long time 😉 )

Ok, now for the secret. Are you ready?! (lol)

this diet secret is probably holding you back

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Most diets set you up to lose in the long run because they are largely focused on lack, on what you can’t eat, on trying to stay away from evil, bad things… limiting… restricting.

I know that sounds simplistic, but think about it…

  • binging on all the stuff you “shouldn’t” eat the weekend before starting a diet
  • getting hangry and having a “justifiably” crappy day
  • avoiding social gatherings with tempting treats
  • drooling while the rest of your family gets to eat normally and you’re over here pitifully nibbling a leaf of lettuce
  • laying in bed staring at the ceiling while your stomach growls and all you can think about is cake, or cheese, or whatever your personal “poison” is…
  • but WILL POWER!

I had steel will power and good habits my whole life… and some pretty good tricks for maintaining my weight, if I do say so myself. Although, I no longer have the same opinion about fat that I grew up with.

But I’m in a different stage of life now, and I don’t want it to all be about will power anymore!

You can’t focus on the negative if you want positive results.

Quick! Don't think about an elephant! Your subconscious can only focus ON something... not on NOT something ;)

The problem with will power is that it only works when you’re not having to exercise it in too many areas of your life at once.

I’ve lived long enough now to know that when crap happens or you’re in the middle of a major transition or crazy-busy, you kinda just do what you have to do.

If you don’t have good habits to fall back on or a good plan B, it’s usually not pretty. I KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE *facepalm* I feel like I’ve been living in crazy mode for 2 years, and my weight reflects that.

It’s time to revolutionize our perspective on food and declare diet liberation 😉

In the fall of 2016 I started what I thought would be a fairly simple project, but it ended up evolving quite a bit…

See, I have this crazy notion that it should just be easy.

I’m not interested in even thinking about trying to stay away from “bad” foods anymore. Who cares.

I believe the best way to make healthy eating easy is to hardcore focus on good foods making up the bulk of your menu – and finding ways of using those foods that you actually LOVE.

Yes, that does mean doing a bit of work on the front end:

  • picking out what foods make the most sense for your family
  • finding yummy, practical recipes for those foods
  • getting used to making new recipes and building better habits around food

The good news is we’ve done most of the hard work for you! (and let’s be honest, for ourselves now, too – thank GOD that is DONE)



Most diets set you up to lose in the long run because they are largely focused on lack, on what you can't eat, on trying to stay away from evil, bad things... limiting... restricting. It's time to revolutionize our perspective on food and declare diet liberation! | health, nutrition, lifestyle

Hey, I’d love to know what you think about this subtle shift in approach to food, and if what we’ve put together looks helpful 🙂

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