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Simplifying Parenting: Becoming a Respectful Family

By TicoandTina

March 25, 2015

evergreen, family, Family Character Focus™

This entry is part 3 of 4 in the series Family Character Focus™

There are many things we wish we did better as a family, and this year we decided to simplify our process by doing one Family Character Focus™ each month, instead of trying to haphazardly work on 20 things at a time. Our theory is that we’ll feel less crazy that way and make better progress.

The goal of this focus is to arm you with resources to help you become a more respectful family in 1 month. There is no wrong way to do it – just look through the ideas and choose the things that fit your family and schedule best.

Becoming a More Respectful Family

This month’s focus is somewhat related to last month’s on communication, but it extends even more into heart attitudes and actions.

Simplifying Parenting: Becoming a More Respectful Family | Family Character Focus

I’ve seen this THINK reminder all over the place and I absolutely love it, so I decided to make a printable to help us remember. It goes along so well with communication and respect. I wish I knew who to credit the idea to, please let me know if you do!

Before you speak, THINK – is it TRUE? is it HELPFUL? is it INSPIRING? is it NECESSARY? is it KIND?

Before you speak, think - is it TRUE? is it HELPFUL? is it INSPIRING? is it NECESSARY? is it KIND? | printable

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Activities

1. Read/Memorize Scripture

The best way to affect a real heart change is to renew our hearts and minds through Scripture, so this is definitely my favorite part of each month.

Here is a list of some great scriptures to read or memorize for this focus (I’m sure we’ll be doing this multiple times):

A PDF with these verses in an easy to cut out and use format is included in the Respect Printables!

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2. Egg Toss

This idea came from the Kids of Integrity site, which has a bunch of other great activities to teach respect also.

3. Crumpled Heart

I’ve seen this concept several places, but the idea is to use a paper heart or a picture of a person on a piece of paper and show kids how their words “crumple” up others and that no matter what, we can’t take them back – you try to again straighten the paper to how it was before and obviously can’t.

There’s also this good idea of trying to get toothpaste back into a tube, which is another way of illustrating the concept, though it’s obviously a lot less free 🙂

Finally, this is another twist, but you could make a cool piece of art for your home to remind everyone to always think about others’ hearts. What I envision is cutting a heart out of tissue paper and ripping it in pieces along with the linked story or your own version of it, then using modpodge to put the pieces on a canvas. I’ll make my own version when I’m back with my art supplies 🙂

4. Brainstorm Respect

I love this idea of printing out the letters of whatever character trait you’re working on for the month and brainstorming together about ways to practice it. You could print and cut the letters from colored or patterned paper, or on plain paper that you decorate, and then write your ideas on each letter and display them throughout the month as a reminder.

Helpful tidbits from here and there:

“Respect starts with a correct view of God.” This is so true and such a good foundation to build. And this post continues with more helpful tips.

[easyazon_link identifier=”1451639619″ locale=”US” tag=”tictin-20″]”Seek to understand, then to be understood.”[/easyazon_link] Anyone anywhere has a more open heart and mind when they feel like you care about them, their feelings, and their point of view.

“Never talk back to a back talker.” When you engage in a power struggle you’ve already called into question the legitimacy of your authority.

6 Things My Kids Are Not Allowed to Say to Adults – I agree with these, but we still have some work to do on this one, mainly because of the objection to #1; because I grew up with #3 and didn’t like it, and because we just need to work on them more in general.

This list of tips for teaching respect is actually a helpful reminder of the different aspects of teaching any character trait.

10 Parenting Tips for Teaching Respect

Extra Resources

Helpful Reading+

  • [easyazon_link identifier=”1931636850″ locale=”US” tag=”tictin-20″]My Mouth is a Volcano![/easyazon_link]
  • [easyazon_link identifier=”1931636915″ locale=”US” tag=”tictin-20″]My Mouth Is a Volcano Activity and Idea Book[/easyazon_link]
  • [easyazon_link identifier=”0312581408″ locale=”US” tag=”tictin-20″]Do Unto Otters: A Book About Manners[/easyazon_link]

Have a great idea or resource we should add to this list? Let us know!

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Check out focuses for other months here.

Series Navigation<< Simplifying Parenting: Becoming a Family Who Communicates WellSimplifying Parenting: Teaching Kids Self-Control; Tips, Tools, & Resources . >>

TicoandTina

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We believe that you were made for greatness and that you don't need to wait for "someday" to start living it. We want to help you revitalize your "now" while also planning for a better "later". What needs to be streamlined in your life to make room for greatness? We keep it real here because let’s face it, we’re not all models and life is not a movie where everything wraps up into neat little packages in 90 minutes. Plus, laughing is one of our favorite activities.

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